So mostly, I keep this blog pretty surface, and I don't talk about super personal things, like the hard things I go through. But I really feel like this is a topic that alot of people struggle with, and it's something I'm going to be fairly open about.
This past week, I went through probably one of the hardest experiences, and labeling it as anything less would be lying. Now the subject would land under heartbreak, and that's really all I want to say about it because just giving my side of the story wouldn't be fair to him, or to our friendship. But I couldn't stop thinking about what I had done wrong, what I had lacked in, and what I could have done better to make that person stay. The truth of the matter is, there isn't anything. I've come to that realization through alot of soul searching. I made sure I gave the relationship 110 percent. Now I'm not saying I didn't make mistakes, because I'm human, but I did do my best to make it work, I loved this person unconditionally. But why? Because they loved me when I didn't know how to love myself. Self-worth is something I think we all struggle with to some degree. But through this experience, and friendship I learned that I needed to stop putting myself on the back burner, and beating myself up. It was time to let it go, and move on. Now, I do think theres a fine line of loving yourself and being conceded. I'm not letting go because I think I'm better than that person, or because they aren't worth my time, I'm letting go because I realize that this wasn't a healthy relationship, because I love myself enough to realize there is someone out there who will take care of me, and love me the way I need to be cared for, and loved, and that person is myself.
Learning to love yourself, and stand on your own two feet requires work, but it's worth it. When we are fully able to love ourselves, we will be able to accept ourselves unconditionally. We are happier with our lives, and our choices. Loving your self is embracing your wonderful qualities.
How do we get there? That destination of loving ourselves? It's not so much a destination as it is a journey because we're constantly having to work on it. Here are eight things I've been doing to love myself more, and focus on the positive.
1. Working on my spiritual development
2. Realizing my life has purpose
3. Getting emotionally honest with myself, and others
4. Appreciating the life I have
5. Being patient with myself, ( I mean I'm not going to change overnight )
6. Forgiving myself, and others
7. Taking time to mediate and journal
8. Becoming aware of the difference between my wants, and needs
So though heartbreak is hard, I am taking this time to love myself, and refocus my perspective.
